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FAQ’s

Niche & ICA

"is this still way too broad?"

Question:

I was the first one on today’s coaching call… the one trying to figure out who the heck she’s talking to and what her message is… quick recap

When I started my business, I was newly married, in nursing school, didn’t have kids, and had all the time in the world to work my business.

Now (almost 7 years later) I quit nursing school to go all in with my biz, had back to back miscarriages, 2 high risk/healthy pregnancies, moved 3 times (most recently to another state), discovered my faith, and currently rebuilding my team.

I thought I was getting somewhere with the whole “non-judge mental motherhood” thing — speaking to those stay-at-home moms who just need time for themselves and/or want to contribute to their families financially….

BUT now after thinking about it, I really do enjoy talking about all of these life transitions ie; taking that leap of faith, overcoming obstacles, the process and embracing the journey.

I guess my question is — is this still way too broad?

Answer:

Give yourself some grace. More than likely, you’re not going to nail this the first time around. Your content will evolve and your message will become more clear the more you are present and engage with your audience. They will start telling YOU what resonates most.

Remember that YOU are the one that decides what’s valuable to share with your audience.
Taking the leap of faith, overcoming obstacles, the process and embracing the journey are all things most people face in life at some point or another, so these are definitely things you can touch on in your content and added value.
You can keep a “broad” list of topics while still getting into the details of your niche. Your job right now is to show up consistently. Pay attention to how your audience is responding to your copy and stories and continue serving. The more you talk, the more you serve, the clearer you will get when it comes to your brand and niche.

“This is too broad.” Is a thought you are having.

What if you chose the thought – “This can serve them now- and I can add more or get more clear later”?

The biggest question you could ask yourself is- “Am I clear enough to take action and serve someone?”

If the answer is YES then you need to stop spending your time thinking about it and start acting on it instead.

"Does this seem too broad?"

Question:

Ok I am having the hardest time finding my niche…I have recently felt called to serve busy, faith based moms who need to stay organized and need systems in place to get more done in less time. I have an e-book about Time Management and I am also in the midst of publishing a Children’s Prayer book. Does this seem too broad? Thank you so much Kristen- this group and your courses have changed the game for me ❤

Answer:

What i’m seeing here as a coach is that you are looking for PERMISSION. It’s very clear to me that you know exactly who you serve and you are having a hard time trusting yourself with your decision.

The model you are in:
C: Time management for moms
T: “this is too broad and I’m having a hard time.”
F: uncertain
A: start second guessing, question myself, don’t execute, spend more time THINKING about my niche instead of serving who I already know I need to serve.
R: stay confused and keep looking for niches.
Thought to try on:
T: I know exactly who I’m serving and I know how to do it.
T: I’m clear on my niche and I don’t have to be confused.

"How do I make my posting cohesive and not random topics that don’t go together?"

Question:

I’m so confused about how to narrow down my niche. I feel like it’s still too broad.
I’ve done all of the work sheets and feel ok about it but then I watch more of the modules and end up second guessing myself -which leads to me not doing anything.
We live on a homestead with all kinds of animals but Nigerian dwarf goats are my thing.
There are so many homesteaders that have amazing content and I don’t feel like I have any value to add because cute pictures of goats.

We moved here because we wanted a more simple life. I’m very much a minimalist and love experiences vs things.
I’m also very much into health and wellness. I’m a health coach but have been serving people more with my MLM business rather than health coaching. Love cooking/baking healthy foods for my family and feel like I’m pretty good at it and have lots to offer.
We have 6 kids and homeschool. We have adopted 1x and are in the process of adopting again.
(I would love to serve other moms in this process because it’s such a difficult process and I feel like there isn’t enough help/encouragement out there)
Which direction so I take? What do I leave out and what do I include? How do I make my posting cohesive and not random topics that don’t go together?
Yikes!!! This is making me crazy haha

Answer:

Girl. If Nigerian dwarf goats and homesteading are your thing… OWN it. You’ve got so many limiting beliefs keeping you from taking action so before diving into niche, let’s address those.
T: I’m so confused about how to narrow down my niche.
T: I feel like my niche is too broad.
T: I don’t have value to add.
T: Other homesteaders are doing it better.
T: I’m unsure about the direction I should take.
T: I don’t know what to include and leave out.
T: I don’t know how to make my posting cohesive
T: I only have random topics that don’t go together.
T: This is making me crazy.

C: Niche
T: Niche is too broad
F: Uncertain
A: second guessing myself
R: No action

You are making this harder than it needs to be. Your beliefs about what is valuable, what your audience wants to hear and see and what others are doing are keeping you from growth.

What if homesteading, health coaching and adoption were the exact thing your audience needed to hear about?

What if your ICA was looking for tips on minimalism and experiences vs things?

What if this wasn’t a problem?

What if minimalism was exactly what your audience was looking for guidance on?

This doesn’t have to be a problem. You are NOT all over the place.

You get to choose these thoughts.

"Is this someone who relates to my value adds or who relates to my purpose?"

Question: Need Clarification on ICA: Is this someone who relates to my value adds or who relates to my purpose?

Need some clarification about my ICA (I have been working & reworking through that module & am stuck)…..is this someone that my unique value adds would interest, or someone who relates to my purpose?

There isn’t a lot of cohesion that I see between the two categories….
When I think about my ICA, it’s ultimately myself, since my purpose & value adds are things about me. ….so I’m kind of answering the questions like a personal journal entry😅🤣🤔 i’m having trouble leveling it up to who my ideal client would be in those categories that would be like me, interested in those things, but isn’t me? I don’t want to just attract myself. I feel like my ICA is similar to me, but not me. But I can’t picture her.

How do I get into their head if I keep thinking of it like myself? Am I looking for a better version of me….my dream client who already has the mindset & community needed, or someone who needs my help?
I have a lot of people in my business already who fit within my purpose, but they’re not necessarily my ideal people, & a lot of them quit simply because their purpose is the same as mine (being a mom). Does this make sense? I’ve always been taught to level up and reach out to those really high caliber, impressive professionals in the health/fitness world who will build an elite biz & have great mindsets. My purpose and value ads wouldn’t relate to those individuals though (being a mom/children’s & prose author).
Any examples of a purpose translating to a customer ICA & a biz partner ICA would be helpful.
I guess I’m trying to figure out who I’m modeling my ICA on…customer or biz partner too?

Answer:

Molly- I’ll leave this post up here in case anyone else has a similar question.

Your purpose is about YOU. It helps you know that you are living your life and working your business in alignment with things that truly matter to you and how you want to impact others.

Your purpose isn’t really about who you attract. It simply is meant to be your “north star” so that you know what’s most important to you and always work from that place.

Your purpose does NOT need to translate to your ICA. Your gifts, talents, and life experiences should though! With your ICA, you are thinking about the people who would benefit MOST from your unique life experiences, point of view, and things you love talking about. (Oftentimes they are people who are just like you or an “earlier version” of you).

Your ICA is almost always a current or “earlier version of YOU.”

You’ve been taught to reach out to “elite professionals and trainers etc…” but if those are not people that you MOST relate with, it will likely feel like a forced relationship or inauthentic to who YOU are. That’s not YOUR ICA and that’s fine!

It would be beneficial for you to do an ICA for your customer AND for your business builder. Sometimes they are the same person- sometimes not.

Don’t let this get too confusing for you. Your goal here is to get more clear on who you want to be speaking to in your messaging.

For example- I speak to two people in my messaging. Network marketers under six figures and those who make six figures. They each have similar pain points but also there are different pain points for each one based on their season or skill set. Your customer and your business builder will be similar. You’ll know when you are talking to “customers” (product post) and when you are talking to “builders” (business post).

Core Values

"Do I want Business Partners to have same core values as myself or different ones?"

Question:

I’m confused by core values. Looking for some clarity.

I am clear on my core values but when looking for business partners –

Do I want them to have same core values as myself or different ones that I’d like to have inside my organization/business that could fill my holes?

Does this make sense?

 

Answer:

The beauty of this industry is surrounding ourselves with people who live life differently, who think differently and probably have different core values. Partnering with business partners with different core values will only make you a stronger leader. If you’re speaking to your ICA, they will probably come with both: same core values and different ones to fill the holes.

Don’t overthink this too much. They will probably change over time anyway in some ways. The most important thing is that you’re clear on yours. You’re doing great!

 

"So our core values would be what we want our legacy to be?"

Question:

I am stuck on my core values. I am seeing the feedback that our core values are what we want to be known for. Whether we live by them now or strive to live by them- 

So our core values would be what we want our legacy to be?

So should legacy be one of tip 5?

I have vision on my top 20- but I’m not sure my legacy would be about my vision? To me, my vision is more what I feel my future could be and the impact I could make, it’s important to me & I believe unless you have some sort of clear vision of what you want to achieve, then it’s harder to set the path to get there… but again not sure out of all the things listed, I would want my legacy to be my vision?

a lot of my top 10 core values are very different from what I am seeing people post, so it’s making me question everything. Absolutely faith, equality etc are of major importance to me, but when I ask myself what I want to be known for? I scream selflessness, community, boldness, goodness, love, humility, honor & so many more.

I feel confused and stuck.

 

Answer:

You’re making this WAY more complicated than it needs to be. I want you to ask your body what it’s feeling when you’re thinking these thoughts. What emotion comes up when you think the thought, “I am stuck on my core values”? 

The reason this is important is because you’re spending quite a bit of energy trying to analyze what the “right” answer is or would be, rather than settling into what is.

Here are just your thoughts:
T: I am stuck on my core values.

T: Vision is important to me.

T: Unless you have some sort of clear vision of what you want to achieve, then it’s harder to set the path to get there.

T: I’m not sure.

T: A lot of my 10 core values are different from what I am seeing people post.

T: I’m questioning everything.

T: I feel confused and stuck.

How do you want to feel about this process? What thoughts do you want to create about identifying your core values? What actions do you want to take with ease? What results are you wanting to create?

I want you to recognize the posture you’re already showing up with. How is that serving you? 

Only YOU know what your core values are. Only YOU can decide what kind of legacy to leave. Keep this simple. Do it, then go back and review it and change things if you need to. Give yourself grace during this process. You’re doing hard work.

Systems

"Team not doing the work I’ve given them... do i need to change my onboarding?"

Question:

I have a team of about 20 with only one actively working her business. There are a handful of others that continue to tell me they want to work their business but when I give them simple starting steps to get their business off the ground, there is no follow through. I feel stuck and frustrated by that. I don’t want to pour my limited time into people who are not working, but I have also spent a considerable amount of time figuring out how to better onboard New consultants so that they are set up and not overwhelmed with what they need to do first. 

Another leader on our team and I just launched a new onboarding system that I feel is great, I emailed it to everyone on my team and let them know that if they wanted to “re-onboard” with me to let me know. I also personally reached out to several who have only been consultants for about 2 to 3 months to ask them to go through the onboarding with me from the start. I’ve heard back from a few saying they do want to go through it with me, but then after I give them the first step in the process, it’s crickets. In addition to trying to support our current team situation I am also working on recruiting a different kind of person… Speaking to the type of woman that I really want to work with. 

Here’s my model so far:

C: team not doing the work I’ve given them

T: they don’t get it, they are not self-starters, I didn’t support them well enough somehow? Even though deep down I know I have provided them the tools and mindset they need…?!

F: defeated, frustrated, angry

A: stew on it, made a plan (new onboarding), tried to implement it, send out weekly encouragement and training. Realize I can’t change them so try to recruit a different person …at the same time I’m still available to current team 

R: still feeling frustrated because nothing seems to be working?!

Answer:

You’ve got a couple different thoughts models in here all wrapped up into one. Let’s unpack those first.

“Team not doing the work I’ve given them is actually a THOUGHT”- we need to get more clear. Here is the model of what really happened.

C: 1 in 20 team members actively working

T: They don’t get it. They are not self-starters.
F: Defeated, frustrated and angry

A: create a new onboarding systems, don’t problem solve or ask questions to learn WHY they aren’t working ,Busy creating new systems rather than solving the issue to begin with

R: No solution found for the 19 other people. 

It’s one thing to fine tune your onboarding system- but notice that you did it from a place of frustration and defeat instead of inspiration and curiosity. 

You need to look at WHY they aren’t following through. How can you evaluate the way you onboarded them? What assumptions might have you made about them? Example: If they want it they will do it themselves?? 

Where was the breakdown in communication? 

Do they have a different idea of “working” than you do? 

IInaction is a sign of confusion and overwhelm- if that were true- what might you do differently now knowing that?

Here is the model you need to explore:

C: 1 in 20 people working the business

T: It’s possible they are confused or overwhelmed.
F: Curious
A: Ask questions, evaluate onboarding, welcome questions, simplify, get clear on what they need
R: Fine tune the onboarding system and help reduce confusion 

Continue: growing your own business, connecting well and creating new relationships, engaging with your audience, adding value and speak to this new person you’ve created.

"When did you know it was time to hire a VA? And what kind of work do you delegate to them?"

Question:

#askthecoach and asking those who do their social selling business as a part of a larger personal brand. (Active email list, blog, Facebook group, etc).

When did you know it was time to hire a VA? And what kind of work do you delegate to them?

As a mom, homeschooling, no childcare and a growing personal business as well as team growth, I am trying to preserve my peace and my health while continuing to grow my business. I know I need to add help for myself to this equation, but unsure how to approach this. Thanks!

 

Answer:

Great question and here are a couple things to think about and then we can tackle some thought models. First, there are a few things to ask yourself in order to gauge if you’re in need of a VA. Are you spending more time on administrative tasks than building your business? Are there things that are getting missed? Are there things that you are SURE someone else can do better? And then there are a few things to think about to make sure you’re ready to hire a VA. Are you willing to decrease your profit to protect your peace? Are you ready to let go? Do you have systems in place that are duplicatable? Might be helpful to think through some of these…BUT let’s dive into a few thought models first.

C: Hiring a VA
T: This will allow me to preserve my peace and health.
F:
A:
R:

C: Hiring a VA
T: This will allow me to grow my business.
F:
A:
R:

 

 

"My company does like onboarding things as a walk through but should I have my own? How do I make it simple?"

Question:

I need some help with systems. Maybe I’m overthinking it idk but I want to really start caring for my little team and I just don’t know where to start. I feel like I need a jumping off point or someone to help me get the ball rolling so my brain can have some lightbulbs lol

My company does like onboarding things as a walk through but should I have my own? How do I make it simple? Gahhh help!

 

Answer: 

 I’m sure you’ll get some great feedback from your peers here in the Academy, but I want to challenge you to ask YOUR brain for these answers, first. You know what your people need more than anyone else.  

Think back to how YOU were onboarded into your company. How did it go? Were you lost or taken care of?  

When you’ve onboarded your people in the past: Did you rely solely on your company’s process? 

How often have your new team members had to come to you with one-off questions and what were they about? Could you address those questions when you do your onboarding? 

What can you create as a go-to resource (something that doesn’t require you to be available to answer questions live) to help your newbies get acquainted with the company, the expectations, the nuts and bolts of the business? 

Get quiet (go for a walk or a drive or take a few deep breaths in the bathroom if you have distractions in your home) and ask yourself these questions. Your brain will start searching for the answers and watch what happens.

And also–this thought: “I just don’t know where to start” is a creativity KILLER

C: onboarding new team members

T: I don’t know where to start with building a system

F: lost (confused? overwhelmed?)

A: look to others to give me the ‘right’ answer

A: indulge in overwhelm/confusion 

A: don’t look within to find the answers

R: I don’t know how to build new systems

Remember: this is the first time you’re trying to build new systems. You could copy and paste what someone else has done (and I get it: a starting off point is a nice short cut), but you’re missing out on an opportunity to trust yourself to find the answers–start building that trust muscle and you will really start to step into the leader you’re meant to be.

Copywriting & Posting to Social

"I know that I could talk about 1 specific problem but how do I narrow that down?"

Question:

I am working on my copywriting since I never do that in my feed. I never offer my products and I have been sharing my experiences with the products that my company sells for quite some time. When it comes to copywriting I am struggling with what it is to talk about because my company has products that solve several problems even in one of their starter packs. I know that I could talk about 1 specific problem but how do I narrow that down? Would this specific problem align with my niche? Even at that I feel like my niche and ICA are women who have anxiety and depression and also women who are on a weight loss journey.

 

Answer:

When you write copy to talk about your product or your business- it helps to focus on ONE problem at a time. The problem does NOT need to identify with your niche. For example- my client does sourdough starters and sells shampoo. She adds value to people who want to learn how to do their sourdough starters. When it comes to copy writing- she will took to the women in her audience who desire to have clean hair and skin care OR who desire to start an online business.

So when you are copy writing- think about what action you want them to take:

1) buy product?

2) message you?

3) join an opportunity call?

4) get a free sample or join a free event?

5) join the business

Think about the problem that each of these solves and the solution that each of these present in your copy. Again, only do one at a time.

"Is it normal for copywriting posts to be LONG?"

Question:

Copywriting question–  Is it normal for copywriting posts to be LONG?  Because mine sure are!  😂  By the time I describe their problem, draw them in with applicable storytelling, get into their feelings with the “before,” then the “after,” and bridge the gap and a call to action, all with spaces in between for emphasis etc….it’s a monologue (visually)!  Does long = bad?  I had been taught by others how short most people’s attention span is… how does that play into it?  You’ve said before how simple sells– perhaps this is my problem?

 

Answer: 

I’m curious why you believe that long posts might be “your problem”? I want you to notice your question at the beginning about what is “normal?” Normal for who? You’re attaching some sort of meaning to what YOU believe might be creating a problem for you. 

What if your audience doesn’t necessarily have the same attention span as Sandy’s audience? What if your audience is more likely to read a longer post because what you write is compelling?

Here is a model I’m noticing from your questions:

C: Copywriting
T: This isn’t working because my posts are too long.
F: Unsure
A: Second guessing myself
R: Reinforces the belief that the problem is how I post.

I want you to take some time and think about why long posts aren’t a problem.

Also: when you edit your post, you want to only say what is necessary and remove the “fluff.”  Sometimes we get too long winded because we were in “convincing energy” when we sat down to write the copy.

"My content and value add does not speak to their problems.... so how do I connect?"

Question: 

#askthecoach I finally had a chance to listen to last weeks call where content vs copy was addressed in part of it.

I appreciated last weeks call and totally understand the difference between content versus copy. However I too am struggling with a couple things. So often times especially on my Instagram I will make a post that I think is it a content post adding value but then at the end of my post I talk about the clothes that I’m wearing because I am in activewear and put to click link in bio in bio to shop. So if I understand everything from last weeks coaching call I shouldn’t be talking about the clothes I’m wearing and putting a call to action in the bottom of my content posts correct?

My next struggle is writing copy…. basically connecting the dots from the value that I offer in my content to, talking about pain points and getting them to take action.

My content and value add does not speak to their problems with finding great activewear…. so how do I connect?

 

Answer:

The problem you are having is thinking that you need to tie activewear into the value you add. Nope! Watch the niche training on this specifically.

The reason you feel confused is because you are trying to TIE IN the activewear with whatever your niche is. They do NOT need to tie in together. 

When you are selling your activewear- you want to talk about your product or business, i encourage you to look at page 28-29 in the copywriting book to see what problems your product solves. For example, In this week’s coaching call, one of the students sold wine. We talked about the problem ordering wine from her solved: not having to go to the convenience store on a Friday night. Not having to spend time leaving the house. That’s valuable to people.

You can ALWAYS put a PS at the bottom of your post and point them to your link in bio.

For example: the post can be a pic of you in your cute activewear. The caption can be about “5 tips to declutter your house in less than 30 minutes a day” (or whatever value you provide your target audience). In the caption you give them actionable value that improves their day. At the END of the caption you can say “if you love my outfit in the pic, check out the link in bio”

I want you to notice that you are making it overly complicated for yourself in your head. It can be simple! don’t overthink it.

Upline & Downline

"Do you personally believe that offering sales on your products as a REP (not from corporate) is a form of hustle?"

Question:

Do you personally believe that offering sales on your products as a REP (not from corporate) is a form of hustle?

There are many reasons I FEEL like it is, but am conflicted by whether it serves my community (for those who can’t necessarily afford, or as a thank you) – however I also think think that it may not be fair to newer reps on my team who can’t necessarily afford to give the sale… however I also think that when my upline always gives sales and encourages our team to, and I don’t I lose sales. I feel very conflicted, and would love another’s perspective.

Here are my models I have put down so far – I just don’t know how I can get them to line up/align with each other so that I have peace when I do decide either way. I’m not even sure if I’ve stripped the Circumstance down enough here (?)

Background: I have had all these thoughts for a LONG time and have stood firm thus far, but I am coming off my lowest commission month in a year, which is making me come at everything NOT from a place of calm or abundance…

C: offering rep sales

T – they serve my community

T – they take away sales from newer reps who can’t necessarily afford to offer them/ not worth their time if not making any money from sales

T – upline does them, and I am losing sales because of it (fact – friend has purchased through upline when she offers sales, prior to she has always ordered through me)

T – devalues the product

T – community then expects sales all the time

T – I will lose sales if I don’t offer them

T – people like sales, and buy when sales are offered

T – if “everyone” (upline and other teams) are doing it, by me NOT doing it, I will lose out

T –  purchase goes where the sale is

T – hurting my team by offering sales they can’t – poor leadership

T – move forward WITH upline, act as a team player

…. I would like to get to 

F = calm, abundance – but nothing seems to be getting me there, 

as right now I am 

F = frazzled, unsure, uncertain, lack of peace, lack of understanding

Which leads to inAction and no Results.

Thank you for any guidance here.

 

Answer: 

Ok let’s clean up some of your thoughts here so you can get your answers.

The models you need to see and work through

UIM (unintentional model)

C: Commission from March

T: “This is my lowest commission month ever”

F: scarce

A: Consider offering discounts (what else is happening here?)

R:

UIM

C: Commission from March

T: “It’s because I don’t offer sales”

F conflicted

A question if i should run sales

R:

UIM

C: Offer Discounts to customers

T: This is hustle

F: Conflicted

a:

R:

UIM

C: Offer discounts to customers

T: They will expect this all the time

F: scarce

A:

R:

UIM

C: Not offer discounts to customers

T:

F:scarce

A:

R:

IM (intentional models)

C: March Comissions

T:

F:

A:

R:

IM

C: Offer discounts

T:

F:

A:

R:

IM

C: Don’t offer discounts

Notice that no matter WHAT is in the C-line- you can still have thoughts that make you feel “Scarce.” all that to say. The C is NOT what creates the feeling or the results?

The sale is NOT what creates the results of customers who purchase. It is your thoughts and how you show up.

Decide how and WHEN you would do a sale. Set your own standards. And decide to have your own back no matter the result.

But deciding from a “Scarce”, “defeated”, or “frustrated” place is NOT what’s going to serve you.

It is not the ACTION itself that makes it “hustle” its HOW you take the action. So when you are thinking “OH CRAP I HAVE TO HIT MY GOAL” because you don’t believe that people will buy- that CAN be hustle. It’s FINE to do. You just have stories about it. Address the models above 🙂

"I feel like I'm having to stay in management mode to not lose what I have instead of releasing what is for the possibility of what could be."

Question:

This past year in business has been extremely tough with builders and sharers walking away. In the past month I have had some key builders/qualifiers that have been with me for 6+ years email or text me saying they would no longer be involved in the business or supporting their downlines. They each have about 200+ customers on their downline in some fashion and I’m feeling overwhelmed with taking responsibility for their teams. I should also say that these builders/qualifiers haven’t put in much action the past 6-8 months anyways so I’ve been responsible for their teams for awhile now but now it feels heavy. I feel like I’m having to stay in management mode to not lose what I have instead of releasing what is for the possibility of what could be. Here is what I’ve come up with.

Unintentional model:

C: 3 key builders stated they were leaving the business

T: I am now solely responsible for the 400+ people on their downlines & need to take urgent action to not loose them

F: this sucks, overwhelmed, panic, desperation, heaviness

A: text all their customers to let them know I’m here to support them, management mode

R: crickets

Intentional model:

C: 3 key builders/qualifiers stated they were leaving the business

T: Releasing those that need to move on for some awesome new people that are ready for me now and will treat this like a job, moving forward

F: excitement, belief, hope

A: showing up on my platforms with value and belief that I will attract the right people who want to align with me in my business for the long-term

R: ?

 

Answer: 

You have a great start here! Let’s tweak your models a bit and help you find exactly what result you’re creating.

Note: The result of ‘crickets’ is not coming from the thoughts that you have in your model. Crickets are out of your control. The result is always what YOU’RE creating–not the action/inaction of the 400 customers you messaged.

Here are your current thoughts:

“I’m now solely responsible for 400+ people.”

“I need to take urgent action to not lose them.”

“This sucks.” (found in your current F line)

Run a model on each of these thoughts to really dig into the result you’ll create when you think them.

C: 3 key builders stated they were leaving the business

T: I am now solely responsible for the 400+ people on their downlines

F: overwhelmed, panic, desperation, heaviness

A: text all their customers to let them know I’m here to support them

A: management mode (what does this mean? Get specific here with your actions)

A: (how are you showing up differently for these people than you normally would with your customers?)

A:

A:

R: I feel responsible for 400+ people’s reaction to their leader’s leaving

C: 3 key builders stated they were leaving the business

T: I need to take urgent action to not loose them

F: desperate

A: text all their customers to let them know I’m here to support them, management mode (this may seem like productive action, but it’s not when you do it from a feeling of desperation–you’ll be in reaction mode and you won’t be able to write from your highest self in a way that will support others)

A: (what else are you doing when you think–”I’m going to lose them if I don’t take action”? How are you showing up? Are you taking thoughtful time to write to these customers? Are you thinking about the best information they need right now? Are you talking to anyone on your team? Are you talking to friends and family about this circumstance? Are you consumed in victim-y thought loops? Are you thinking ‘they’ll leave if I don’t take XYZ action?’)

A:

A:

A:

R: I don’t develop a thoughtful plan on how to help customers—I don’t show up as the leader and rush the process

C: 3 key builders stated they were leaving the business

T: this sucks

F: heavy, overwhelmed

A: (list all the reasons this shouldn’t be my responsibility, complain to friends, state my case on how much this sucks,) ←-list all of the things you are thinking or doing when you think, “this sucks”

A:

A:

R: I’m the victim because this sucks

When it comes to model work we often try to skip to a new ‘intentional’ model. Do the work on these thoughts first–come back once you’ve filled them in and once you’re really clear on these thoughts, we can find some new thoughts to try on!

"One of my direct's downline is falling apart. I just don't know how to help my direct recover as their leader."

Question:

I have some upset in my downline. One of my direct’s downline is falling apart. Her downline is upset with her directly and are making negative comments in team chats. I am giving her downline their chance to discuss their issues with me directly at which time I will then set expectations moving forward. I just don’t know how to help my direct recover as their leader. Thanks in advance!

 

Answer:

So what I’m seeing here is that this is all “vague” and generalized and “broad.”

What is the actual problem?

Here is your THOUGHT (which means it’s your opinion or interpretation of the circumstance you see):

– “my direct downlines team is falling apart”

The circumstance is:

A team member is making negative comments in team chats.

You have your thoughts about this and your direct downline has thoughts about this too.

If you want to help her recover you have to help her see her thoughts about this. But your current thought about her team isn’t going to serve her. 

Your thought model is this:

C: negative comments in team chat

T: “that team is falling apart”

F:

A:

R:

What does setting expectations look like after this?

What if the team isn’t falling apart like you think? Or even like your leader things?

What if conflict does NOT equal “everything falling apart”?

Running a Business in Multiple Companies

"What are your thoughts on someone who is a part of more than one MLM?"

Question: 

So I love how MLMs work and the fact that you can buy stuff you love, and simply by someone else using your link, you can generate income. I am with a company I am partial to and will continue to build and grow. There are a couple other companies out there who’s products I like as well. I do not actually own any of the products yet. What are your thoughts on someone who is a part of more than one MLM? Does it become too confusing to their audience or come off as only trying to do the next best thing? Do you have ppl in the academy that are involved in multiple mlms? Maybe they mainly only promote one, but occasionally sprinkle in the others? This is just an idea I have to also possibly generate more income. Thanks in advance for your feedback.

 

Answer:

I think there is a belief issue that you can make all the money you want to make with only ONE offer and selling ONE mlm product.

When I first started as a coach, I was helping “everyone” – network marketers, coaches, hairstylists interior designers, etc…. When it came time to truly CHOOSE to serve ONE audience – there were a LOT of limiting thoughts on why I was scared to only serve one audience.

When I made the decision to go “ALL IN” with social selling- everything changed.

My messaging end marketing became MUCH more clear. My target audience got more narrow. EVERYTHING shifted.

I believe working 2 MLM’s is a form of scarcity on some level.

You will build the BEST residual income with one. What beliefs are getting in the way of you fully committing to ONE?!

Two offers IS confusing to your audience. I would encourage you to be all in- with only one.

I would also get curious about this thought: “possibly generate more income.” What thoughts do you have about promoting ONE company? Why isn’t this a problem? What if you could make MORE, simply by offering a simple offer?

"Can someone truly be successful leading multiple teams in different companies?"

Question:

Hey Kristen and friends! I’ve been in the network marketing business for over 3 years and I am at the point in my business where building dedicated leaders is very important. Several of my frontline Rep multiple social selling businesses and have teams in both companies.

As I watch both of their businesses grow and as they promote both avenues, their posts are actually amazing and super passionate, but even I get confused when reading their posts as I don’t always know which company they are referring to. I can only imagine how confusing it must be for their customers and community. So I guess my question for you is (and I hope this doesn’t offend anyone here who may be repping multiple companies):

…Can someone truly be successful leading multiple teams in different companies? I do realize it is really not my business with what they choose to do, but as their mentor I feel it’s difficult to lead when I don’t feel they are in it all the way. I guess at some point our p+p would kick in and they may have to decide, but then I feel frustrated investing time into them when they may go another route in the end. Phew. That’s a lot!!! Thank you for any advice

 

Answer:

They can have a “measure” of success with both.

You asked “truly successful”- that’s entirely up for speculation to the individual. 

The truth is- it DOES create confusion to the audience. It also could create a “breech of trust” with their reader. In the eye of the audience- “if the business is working ‘so well’ why is she building two?” Trust is everything with your audience.

Here is the million dollar truth:

Simplicity and restraint is the million dollar strategy. If they want lifetime residual income and to build a $20k/monthly business- they need to put all their energy and focus into build ONE organization with ONE company with a STRONG personal brand.

I usually don’t encourage someone to build a second business (I never encourage a second MLM) until they have reached the top of their company and their business can run 95% without them.

Recruitment or Stuck at Rank

"I've had a lot of potentials but few closed... where do I go from here?"

Question:

I have had about 40 potentials reach out to me/click interested button in the last 5-6 weeks on Instagram. Ive closed 1.

My response to their initial message or info request is asking about them, their needs etc then after we’ve established a bit of a connection I ask if I can send them our catalog (one made by my team that is a brief description of each product rather than a huge info overload that the corporate one might be) with some recommendations of what they should specifically look at.

From there, I follow up and I’ve been either getting ghosted, or people say “I haven’t had a chance to look yet I will tonight”… I’ve followed up a handful of times (without applying any pressure)…

would love some coaching on where to go from here. I’ve been direct but no pushy and I feel confident in that. Do I let them go and keep going? Do I need to change up my approach? I see it as a positive thing that so many people have reached out to ME for info…. but then I’m curious what I’m “missing” that I’m not able to close with any of them.

Thanks in advance!

 

Answer:

UM OKAY HELLO YOU BAD A** MAMA! 40 potentials. WHO DIS?

I want you to take a moment and REALLY sit with how what you are doing is WORKING on the front end. Are you seeing yourself in a positive light? 

Ok here is the thing and where you lost them- and THAT’S OKAY.

They DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY NEED.

YOU do.

This is why you are the guide and the authority.

Have you ever sat down to eat at a restaurant and seen 1000 different food choices when you are hungry? My brain cannot process all the options and shuts down from overwhelm.

Sending them a catalog is overwhelming.

They don’t know what they want.

It is your job to ask them questions and tell them what they NEED.

“Based on everything you are telling me Sarah, you need package A”

Have you watched The Recruit Reboot yet? A lot of this will get cleared up for you- if you have not watched it yet, do so immediately. 

You want their only decision to be- “do you want this?” and “ are you ready to sign up?”

The catalog is overwhelming. “A confused brain says no.”

Knowing that you have 40 very interested parties- how do you want to show up on social? Do you need to do some stories that help them see what they need? Sell the simplicity?

"Since I need brand partners, do I only focus my content and copy on the business geared toward my ideal brand partners and not customers?"

Question:

My IG bio says:

I teach seasonal self-care & help healers build an abundant business with essential oils.

This leads me to my second question.

I need to focus on recruiting brand partners. Still, my belief has been that people decide the business is for them through the impact of the products, even if they were leaning with a yes to the business if they believed in the product before they tried anything. ( that is what happened for me)

On content and copy.

  1. Since I need brand partners, do I only focus my content and copy on the business geared toward my ideal brand partners and not customers?

Thank you in advance for your help.

 

Answer:

You used the thought, “people decide the business is for them through the impact of the products” and then the HUGE KICKER is “THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED FOR ME.” Woah. This is really interesting because you’re completely overlooking a massive market of people that couldn’t care less about the impact of the products before jumping into the business. 

I want you to really sit with this and see what’s happening here. Your belief is keeping you from what could potentially be an ideal client because of your thoughts. Let me show you what this might look like in a model:

C: Recruiting brand partners

T: People decide the business is for them through the impact of the products only.

F: Stuck

A: Hustle

A: Copy just for products

R: Build a business of product takers 

What result do you WANT to create? In a perfect world, what are you trying to grow? What would happen if you JUST focused on writing copy to your ICA? Who is your ideal brand partner? Is she in it just for the products or is she already a yes for the business before ever even trying the products?

So much potential here!

"3 leaders on my team lost their titles this week an I am not sure what to think or do next"

Question: 

LOVED the live today in Recruit Reboot. I have several leaders and team members joining in and I’m so excited – thank you.

It’s bringing up some stuff for me, though.

C: 3 leaders on my team lost their titles this week

T: I didn’t do enough to help them

T: I don’t have good systems in place

T: my team is losing momentum

T: all the progress we made over the last year is unraveling (sounds dramatic, I know. But that’s where my sneaky, jerk brain is going)

F: inadequate, anxious, panicked, nervous

A: starts frantically wanting to change all my onboarding and systems, become self-focused instead of thinking of how I can best serve the leaders I do have, trying to “replace them”

R: tempted to recruit quality and not quantity, more attrition because becoming self-focused.

Fighting to choose the intentional thoughts that I have an incredible team of leaders who WANT this and there are more to be found.

If my systems and onboarding didn’t work, I wouldn’t be here, but also trying to evaluate where necessary. (This might be a whole ‘nother question/circumstance.)

I’m not responsible for another’s success (this is so so so hard for me to believe)

 

Answer:

First thing is that every thought needs its own model. Here’s what yours are looking like right now.

C: 3 leaders on my team lost their titles this week

T: I didn’t do enough to help them

F: Inadequate

A: Starts frantically wanting to change all my onboarding and systems

A: Become self focused instead of thinking of how I can best serve the leaders I do have, trying to replace them.

R: No help for current team.

 

C: 3 leaders on my team lost their titles this week

T: I don’t have good systems in place

F: Anxious

A: Starts frantically wanting to change all my onboarding and systems

A: Become self focused instead of thinking of how I can best serve the leaders I do have, trying to replace them.

R: Change system but no new people.

 

C: 3 leaders on my team lost their titles this week

T: My team is losing momentum

F: Panicked

A: Starts frantically wanting to change all my onboarding and systems

A: Become self focused instead of thinking of how I can best serve the leaders I do have, trying to replace them.

R: Team begins losing momentum.

 

C: 3 leaders on my team lost their titles this week

T: All the progress we made over the last year is unraveling

F: Nervous

A: Starts frantically wanting to change all my onboarding and systems

A: Become self focused instead of thinking of how I can best serve the leaders I do have, trying to replace them.

R: All the progress begins unraveling.

 

If you aren’t responsible for their success, how CAN you show up in a powerful way?

What do you want to believe about the team you have now?

What do you want to believe about the team members who haven’t joined you yet?

How can YOU show up today and do the best you can?

I want you to really dig in and reflect on what you have now and become aware of the gratitude you already feel for your current team.

Then, go out and decide what results you WANT to create.

What do you have to do in order to get those results?

How do you need to feel in order to take action?

"I have lost rank but I think I’m a good leader with a good platform. But I also feel like there must be something else I should be doing."

Question:

Since joining, I feel so much more authentic. I have learned so much about communication.

But…

I have lost rank and several ambassadors since December when I joined ssa.

I feel I’m faithful to my consistency. I feel good about my niche. I feel good about my content. 

I’ve had more engagement than I’ve had in a long time on many of my posts. My business posts don’t get as much activity as my content posts, but I know- they’re watching. My fb group is growing. I’ve got a few more followers on IG. 

I’m serving others.

But… it has not translated into dollars. And like I said- I’m losing people. Attrition is normal! my conscious mind shouts. But my subconscious is very anxious. 

I think I’m a good leader with a good platform. But I also feel like there must be something else I should be doing. 

Is there?

 

Answer:

Ok so here are the circumstances you need to look at.

C: Did not re-rank

T:

F:

A:

R:

C: # of ambassadors who didn’t reorder (did they quit the business or just stop ordering product?)

T: “This is attrition” or “I’m missing something”

F:anxious

A:

R:

 

Here are the things you need to know: you will have almost ZERO engagement on your business related posts- this is completely normal- trust that people ARE reading.

Engagement always precedes the sales- ALWAYS. So know you are about to hit the “tipping point.” 

C: Higher engagement

C: FB growing

C: More followers on IG 

I would encourage you to get curious as to why the ambassadors left?

Your brain is telling you “THIS IS A PROBLEM!”

Are you actively growing your customer base?

Now would be a good time to do an audit:

– how many business posts have you made?

– how many people do you actively engage with on a regular basis?

Posting is completely pointless unless you ENGAGE with other people and offer them value through your content, comments, likes, share, etc….

 

Adding Value & How to Write “Value Posts”

"I'm stuck because I'm overthinking how to incorporate new content into my feed and bouncing around with who I want to help and where I can actually add value"

Question:

I’ve been working through a thought model around adding value to existing personal trainers who want to expand their reach and also generate another stream of income through the business opportunity and a few thoughts are coming up for me

C: Helping personal trainers

T: I’m not an expert in helping PT expand their business so how can I write content/copy about it

T: I don’t want to only post about helping personal trainers

T: I don’t think I have enough value to post about to actually help

T: If I try to help PT my message will be unclear because my content so far hasn’t been about that

F: worried, uneasy, embarrassed

A: not targeting PT at all,

R: putting out content/copy that feels unclear/unintentional to me (i know thats another thought lol)

My intentional I’ve been trying to work through

C: helping personal trainers

T: personal trainers see the value in helping people through multiple different avenues

T: I can add value to trainers that doesn’t always have to be about starting a business (content about fear, people pleasing, being stuck)

T: I feel best when I am helping other trainers because I use to be stuck in the same situation

F: hopeful, east

A:

R:

I’m stuck on the action because I’m overthinking on how to incorporate this new content into my feed, I feel like I’m bouncing around with who I want to help and where I can actually add value

 

 

Answer:

What happened since your coaching? What thought allowed your confusion to return? 😉 Confusion is a product of a thought you are choosing and it almost always starts with “i don’t know….”

Go back to reading the section on owning your expertise in the organic marketing. It’s NOT about actually being a “CERTIFIED expert.”

Okay, I’ve edited your models a bit here. Each thought gets its own model:

 

C: (Content around) helping personal trainers

T: I’m not an expert in helping PT expand their business so I can’t write content/copy about (always flip questions into thoughts in the T line)

F: embarrassed

A: guessing at valuable content

A: judge myself for wanting to do this content

A: overthink what to post

A: don’t write a post targeting PT pain points

R: I’m not showing up as an expert who can help personal trainers

Do you see how that thought is creating more of the same confusion and unhelpful content creation? Of course you’re stuck in confusion and not creating valuable content. It could never be valuable with a thought ‘I’m not an expert” or “I can’t write content for PT.”

Run through the rest of your thoughts to see how they aren’t serving you, either, and bring some of them back to this post 🙂

 

C: (Content around) helping personal trainers

T: I don’t want to only post about helping personal trainers (a more clear thought might be: “I want to write about many different topics”)

F:

A:

A:

A:

R:

 

C: (Content around) helping personal trainers

T: I don’t think I have enough value to post about to actually help

F:

A:

A:

A:

R:

 

C: (Content around) helping personal trainers

T: If I try to help PT my message will be unclear because my content so far hasn’t been about that

F:

A:

A:

A:

R:

As for working on intentional thoughts: first, get clear on your goal. Is it to get personal trainers to ultimately buy your product or join your team? What is the pain point that needs solving for them? How can you provide value that helps where they’re in pain (without mentioning your product or opportunity). You said you were in their shoes before–what was painful for you?

It may help to pull out a sheet of paper and put: “Why was I miserable as a PT?” and write down everything that comes to mind. What could YOU have used back then to help get you out of your situation?

"I just struggle with how to create content that attracts people to me and my FB group then adding more value to that group."

Question:

Ok I have been hesitant to post here because I’ve been trying to work through all of this for the past month since signing up for the academy.

My FB group engagement is down. Fact. I have tried to pivot my strategy and add more value. This group was started when I did my launch party after joining my company and was told to turn it into my VIP customer group.

I’m struggling because I promote my group as a VIP customer group where I share my product, sales, giveaways, etc. I’m finding it hard to gauge what type of value to add. I have tried multiple engagement posts to get more of an idea of what my ladies are looking for…. and nothing.

I believe in myself and in my product. I feel as if I started out in a hustle mode and figuring out how to attract people in the non hustle way has resulted in imperfect action for sure. I’m still showing up consistently….

I enjoy talking about self confidence, positive self talk and body image, healthy habits, fitness and health because I have had a lot of personal experience/struggles with overcoming them. I guess I just struggle with how to create content that attracts people to me and my FB group then adding more value to that group.

Answer:
Ok I see a few problems here. The good thing is that it is easily fixed.

Problem #1:
“I have tried multiple engagement posts to get more of an idea of what my ladies are looking for…. and nothing.”
The problem here is that you are looking to your AUDIENCE to tell you what’s valuable instead of YOU being the one to decide what’s valuable. Which is causing you to be confused and unclear with the value in her group.

Example:
C: Adding value to my FB group
T: I don’t know what value to offer
F: confused and uncertain
A: Try lots of different engagement posts to my audience, take guess at what I think they want
R: Still don’t know what value to offer which created engagement to go down

Problem #2:
“I enjoy talking about self confidence, positive self talk and body image, healthy habits, fitness and health because I have had a lot of personal experience/struggles with overcoming them”
You clearly DO know what value you have to offer. What thoughts are you having that is preventing you from talking about these things consistently in your group?

It is possible that you have the thought “these topics won’t attract people” or “this isn’t valuable”?

What if you talked about the things listed above? What if you only focused high value on those things?

"When we say “add value” to our posts .... what does that mean?"

Question:
When we say “add value” to our posts …. what does that mean?

Share what we think/feel is important about our business/product/service or just anything valuable that someone can use in daily life such as “having your pillows sunbath for 2 hrs kills germs and brings puffiness back to a flat pillow better than the dryer and smells fresh”

This is my BIGGEST issue when posting with value

Answer:

When you the modules on ‘knowing your audience’ and ‘knowing your role’ you will understand how to add value that adds to your ideal client.

Something that ADDS to their life.
Your business or product is not a value add it’s an ASK.

What betters their day, saves them a google search, solves a problem etc…

This will become more clear to you when you better understand your target audience and who you serve.

Changing Companies

"Will you help me with my questions on transitioning the second company to be my primary?"

Question:
I am partnered with two different companies.
I’ve been working one of them for the last year and have built a small team of hobby members and a decent-sized VIP group.

I chose to work the first company because it fit my niche’ing better and I liked the product but not much thought went into it beyond that.

At first I enjoyed how straightforward it was but it’s missing purpose for me. I feel like I’m pushing shiny things all day and consumerism in excess.

That’s the biggest incongruency, there are some others.

Knowing what I know, having done so much of the work here and digging deep, I feel like this is an opportunity to give it a go with the second company.

Will you help me with my questions on transitioning the second company to be my primary?

I know “quitting companies” is not encouraged (I’ve listened to and read everything here) but I also don’t want to stay the course for the sake of staying the course.

Answer:
I put some of your thoughts in BOLD so you could see that they were thoughts- NOT facts.

First, let’s look at your model:
C: Building with current company
T: Current company is missing “purpose” for me
F: Pushy
A:
R:
-Why do you think this? What does that mean? You can have purpose with ANY company. Purpose comes from YOU- not the company.
C: Building with current company
T: I push shiny things all day and consumerism in excess
F: Incongruent
A:
R:
Why do you have this thoughts? Consumerism can be found with ANY company.
C: Building with current company
T: “My team is made up of hobby members”
F:
A:
R:
Why are you calling them “hobby members”?

What is the end game? What result are you currently creating and what result do you WANT to create?

Remember, changing your circumstance will not change your result.

What do you think will change by switching?
I want you to get clear on some more of the details and your thoughts about this first.
“it’s missing purpose for me. I feel like I’m pushing shiny things all day and consumerism in excess.” THIS doesn’t give me enough information to understand WHY you want to switch?

How is this new company going to solve for this?

I have nothing against someone leaving their company to go to another- so long as they are honest about their reason and they LIKE their reasons for doing so.

"Should I Leave current company for ground floor company?"

Question:

I would love some unbiased advice about feeling a “pull” to start over and join a new company.

Back story: I was with my first company for 5 years. Had a team of about 300 and was making a great income. They were HEAVY on cold messages and my heart wasn’t in it any more. I found my new company in health and wellness and was able to earn their auto bonus in 5 weeks without a single cold message making connections in fb groups. I was SO HAPPY! I found my voice and my purpose to give people a way to build this business from the heart.

Later I built to a 6 figure income by my 6th month. I’m about to hit the 2 year mark with the company and I’m second guessing if I really want to hit the top of the company. I’m unsure if I truly love the products. I love the business side of it and the comp plan. But the products I still have 2nd thoughts about and a hard time enrolling customers.

I was on track to earn a $200K bonus and recruited 24 people in one month and my org volume didn’t budge. I felt so defeated because I worked extremely hard only to replace attrition I’m having. That $200K bonus is not happening now.

Long story short.. I’ve always had a dream to be a founding distributor with a new company. With a product I love and fully believe in. I just want sure what, when and also get nervous with the risk of a new company and it not taking off.
Last week the founders of a new beauty and wellness company reached out to me and they want me to join their company as a founder. They are launching in May. I would be direct to corporate to spread their mission which is VERY close to my heart because of my fertility struggles.

I wasn’t looking for anything new. I’m happy with my current company for the most part. And I ADORE my team.

But my heart and my gut is really telling me this new opportunity is too good to pass up. I can’t stop thinking about it and the possibilities.
I am agonizing over what to do. I hate letting people down and disappointing them. I’m afraid of walking away from all of my work and my income with my current company. I’m worried I’m having “shiny object” syndrome and I will make a huge mistake.

I am so appreciative of any and all advice

Answer:

Here are the models you need to explore. You will likely have A LOT of thoughts in each. Explore ALL OF THESE.
C: Leave current company for ground floor company
T: “I will make a huge mistake”
F: worry
A:
R:
C: Leave current company for ground floor (EVERY single Thought needs it’s own model FYI)
T:
F:
A:
R:
C: Missed a $200K bonus (this model you need to explore quite a bit because I think it’s more at play here than you realize)
T:
F:
A:
R:
C: Current company product
T: I don’t fully believe in the product
F: disbelief
A: Don’t enroll customers
R:
C: recruited 24 and volume org stayed
T:
F:defeated
A: think about another company, consider joining another company
C: Start over in new company
T:
F:
A:
R:

Things I want you to consider:
Would you still choose the new company if you made LESS money for a while?

Are you choosing this company because of your current disappointment about missing the bonus? (BE honest with yourself here)
Have you ALWAYS struggled with the products or did you start questioning the products AFTER you looked at another company?

If the company didn’t take off and you STILL loved the experience, mission, product, etc… would you STILL do it?

Are you hoping to change your CIRCUMSTANCE in order to get the results you want?

Do you have the financial cushion to allow for a 12 month “rebuild”? Or will you be desperate, graspy, needy, and in full blown “hustle” mode?

Remember, circumstances do NOT create RESULTS.

"I am with two companies and I wish I could shake these feelings of scarcity and thinking it’s going to crash at any moment."

Question:
Scarcity mindset is my biggest struggle. I left my job a little over a year ago, quite abruptly after having been there over a decade. At the time, I was doing well with 1 MLM. When I left I took on a 2nd MLM to bring home more income since my leaving my job cut our income by more than half.

Shortly after that, my original MLM became and still is a struggle for me. I have met the minimum required to be active each month, but my sales have been at about 30-50% of what they once were.

My newer MLM has done really well since then. I’m terrified even putting that out there because I don’t want to jinx it.

I genuinely believe I put equal effort into each business. Ok, perhaps not quite equal but the first MLM is one product while the other is much more complex and has the potential for more information to be taught. They are kept separate because of company policy.

I wish I could shake these feelings of scarcity and thinking it’s going to crash at any moment. I honestly wouldn’t mind ditching the first MLM because it’s no longer my passion…but it does bring home a decent amount of money each month that I’m scared to let go of because what if my other MLM starts to flounder like the first and that amount will help keep me away from a career I never want to return to?
I’ve tried doing a model. It’s interesting how the other models I’ve worked through from the modules have been really simple for me. But this one I am struggling to finish.

I know what my C, T, & F are. I don’t know what to say for my A & R as I feel those are still mostly my feelings. I feel terrified but I don’t change my actions because of that. I still stay at a place of serving, I don’t reach out needy or asking people to purchase for me to hit my goals (big pet peeve of mine when people do that). So I don’t know that it changes my result at all. I just want to feel safe.

C: Consistent income
T: This could dry up at any time.
F: Terrified about having to return to my previous career outside the home.
A:
R:
I hope this makes sense. Thank you for any feedback you have.

Answer:
I want to know what it’s costing you to stay where you are right now?

When you think about running both companies, the energy you use, the stress you put yourself under and the way you’re feeling right now… is it worth it?

The reason this is important to tackle, is because your energy right now is spread so thin.
What’s really keeping you stuck is the thought (and fear) that this might not work. I really want you to pay attention to that energy and decide if you want to continue partnering with those thoughts.

Then I want you to sit and focus on the thoughts that you WANT to have about these MLM’s. The MLM in and of itself WILL NOT bring your results.

So what does?

Only you. You are what creates your results.

Here’s what your model really looks like:
C: Represent two different MLM companies
T: This could dry up at any time.
F: Terrified
A: Spread too thin.
A: Messaging and branding confusing.
A: Emotional energy spent.
R: Little to no growth, affirming brain “they could dry up”

I want you to take a HUGE step back and think about what life could look like if ALL of your attention, focus, energy could back ONE company.

What would that feel like?

How could you show up in a more powerful way?

How would you be able to serve your audience better?

How might that contribute to the life you’re trying to build?

I also want you to sit with this thought:
“I always have options.”