How many of you have all of the perfect to-do lists and/or pretty planners and you still get “nothing” done? If you’re constantly asking yourself “where did all of my time go?” Kristen’s breaking down why this is so common and how to combat it so that you can start to harness your time instead of letting it slip through your fingers:
- Common harmful things people say about time
- Why you’re feeling anxiety and overwhelm around time
- Thoughts that destroy your productivity
- The questions to ask to measure your productivity
- How activity trackers are actually a great tool when used correctly
- How perfectionism hinders productivity and why Kristen models B- work
- The #1 question to ask yourself if you find that you avoid planning
- The difference between busy and productive
If you’ve tried the activity tracker, planning out your week in your planner, or writing a to-do list and you still avoid actually doing what you said you would do, there’s a reason for that: you have a human brain. Kristen shares how to work with your brain to get the most out of your day.
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Transcript of Episode #47: Time Management
Kristen Boss (00:01):
Hey bosses. Welcome back to another week of the podcast. Hey, I don’t know if you know this right now, but there is a three day new live event that is happening right now. Today, today we have kicked off and a private Facebook group and my $9 three day live event training called the recruit reboot. And it is everything you could possibly want to know about recruitment in this business. And here’s what I’m saying. Recruitment is not a strategy. And a lot of you think it is, it is not a strategy. It is a skill set. And the good news is is that with any skillset you can learn and master a skill set, recruitment, being a rockstar recruiter is not for people with certain personality types or genetic predispositions or a certain type of following. It really is a skill. And if you want to learn the three skills that are absolutely required in order for you to become a rockstar recruiter by your own rights, and really consistently bring in new qualified business leaders monthly, then you’re going to want to join the three-day event it’s happening.
Kristen Boss (01:14):
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Kristen Boss (02:38):
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Kristen Boss (03:32):
It’s only $9. I believe in creating really affordable training for social sellers, but I don’t do free training. And the reason why I do that is I want you to have a little skin in the game. We show up differently when we pay for things, we’re more likely to take it seriously. And I want that for you. I take it very seriously and I really want you to show up, ready to learn and ready to do things differently. So if that sounds good to you, head to the link in the show notes, and then also the double book bonus for the academy is happening this week. All right. So now I want to talk about the topic for today’s podcast episode. And it’s kind of funny. I realized I was shocked when I realized I had not talked about time management. I don’t have an episode on time management until today. I was kind of just beside myself. How do I have, you know, a podcast with, I dunno what 50 episodes at this point, I’ve lost count. And I haven’t talked about time management. This is a huge, I think pain point in, you know, for social sellers who are growing their businesses while they’re raising babies, while they’re balancing a nine to five, while they’re doing all the things, listen, everyone is busy.
Kristen Boss (04:45):
Everyone is busy. Like you Can’t say no, Kristen, I’m just more busy than everybody. Everybody is busy. Okay. Which means that everybody can have success with this business. If they know how to properly manage their time. And a lot of people, when they think of time management, they think of time-blocking scheduling, having a planner, doing to-do lists and all those are well and good. But I can’t tell you how many times I see people who have to do lists and planners and still get nothing done. They still feel like, where did my day go? Where did, where did the time go? I didn’t get done what I wanted to get done. And it’s not because you know, they didn’t write it down. You
Kristen Boss (05:36):
Can have a to-do list. You can have a planner, but time management is not about what goes on paper, but what is happening in your mind? Unmanaged time is a sign of an unmanaged mind. And I’ll unpack that for you like an unmanaged brain. Okay? So when we aren’t making the most of our time, I want you to think about the ways that we waste time. We lose time.
Kristen Boss (06:05):
So to give you an example of that, here are things that I hear people say when it comes to time, I’m so busy. I just have so much to do. There’s not enough time. I ha I’m never going to get it all done. This is going to take so much time. I want you to just notice those statements and notice. I’m sure you have said them on more than one occasion. Maybe you say it every day. Like I just have so much to do today. I have so much to do. And I just want you to notice how that, just you saying that and thinking that how that makes you feel I have so much to do today. Me even saying it, I don’t like saying it. It feels awful. It feels like
Kristen Boss (06:48):
I immediately feel a sense of anxiety and tightness in my chest. And I start to feel like the walls are closing in on me, just because this idea of I have so much to do. And any time we think, or we think that, or say that out loud, it creates a physiological response in our body. That feels a lot like anxiety and overwhelm and the brain, when it, you know, when you’re feeling things like anxiety and overwhelm, the brain is all about seeking comfort and not experiencing discomfort. So the is like, okay, well, all of those things on your to-do list are, is what’s overwhelming us. So we’re going to do something that’s not overwhelming. So when we’re saying I have so much to do, there’s not enough time and we’re, and we’re in that drama and we’re in that stress and we’re freaking out. We end up sitting there in that place of overwhelm and spinning out, spinning out, being like sitting with your thoughts and sitting with anxiety, but not doing anything about it or doing this frenzy hurried activity, but we’re not being productive.
Kristen Boss (08:02):
Listen busy does not equal productive. I know plenty of busy people who are not being productive in their time. I want you to think about that because a lot of times we think because we’re being busy, that we’re being productive, but the real way to know you are being productive is looking down at, like, at you’re looking at your week or looking at your day and asking, what did I accomplish? What results did I create? What actual measurable results do I have? What did I produce?
Kristen Boss (08:38):
Right. So, you know, it could be business related. It could be house related so you can decide, okay, today is laundry day. And it’s really important to be really specific about how you want to manage your time. Instead of just saying, okay, I need to clean the house and I need to prep for dinner. You need to be a lot more specific about that with your brain. You need to say, okay, I’m going to fold two loads of laundry. I’m going to spend 30 minutes prepping the veggies, you know, and marinating the chicken. And you know, I’ll have that prepped in in 15 minutes. Notice how specific that is. So that at the end of it, you’re not just like, I don’t know. I was just folding laundry and losing time. You’re just like, no, I got two loads of laundry done. I got chicken. I got the chicken prepped. Notice how you’re able to look at what you produced. I really want to talk about this in relation to your income producing activity. A lot of you are very familiar with this language. It’s probably used on your teams and you probably have really cute little printouts and activity trackers that your team hands out to you. And Hey,
Kristen Boss (09:50):
That’s a great thing. If you actually use it the way it’s supposed to be used, I kind of view income activity, trackers, almost like, like a meal plan or like a, a food journal, like to take an inventory of everything you’re putting in your mouth, just to be aware your income producing activity tracker should create a lot of awareness with how you were spending your time. And I think what happens in social selling is because so much of your work happens on social media,
Kristen Boss (10:28):
That you have started associating being on social media with work when you aren’t actually working. Think about that for a second. How often are you quote working and you find yourself scrolling and you’re lost down the rabbit hole of all these reels and following an account because you thought that reel was hilarious. Hey, I’ve been there. I get that. But I have to budget time to do that elsewhere. Not during my work time. Anytime I sit down and look at reels during my work time, you can just kiss productivity goodbye, and it’s no different for you. So I just want you to notice if you think, if you’re online for, you know, two hours and at the end of two hours, you don’t have measurable results that you created in that time. You were not being productive. You were just being active. You were just being busy and busy work. Doesn’t pay the bills, productive work, pays the bills. You have to learn to be productive and efficient. It’s not about adding more hours to your day. That’s what hustle is. Hustle is just like, I’m just going to add more hours. I’m just going to use more time. But when you learn work hard, you work with the time you have, you work very efficiently and you become very disciplined in your time.
Kristen Boss (12:03):
What good is an activity tracker or a to do list. If it doesn’t actually get done and you didn’t actually do income producing, if you didn’t yield income producing results. So for example, when you’re thinking about your income producing activity time, and let’s say you, you put aside 45 minutes to do that. And at the end of 45 minutes, if you don’t have actual measurable things to say, oh, I reached out to, you know, five customers. I engaged with 20 people. I created a reel. I wrote a post. I scheduled for this. And I engaged in my, you know, in my target demographic or whatever it is.
Kristen Boss (12:49):
If you don’t have that afterwards, if you don’t know, if you don’t have a clear picture of what you did, then you were not being productive. You’re just being busy. Okay? So here’s what you want to do. Here’s what you’re going to want to do. If you truly want to become a productive person who makes the most out of their time and doesn’t feel every day, like you’re running out of time, have so much to do losing time, wasting time. You’re going to want to have a plan. You need to create a plan. And I think that’s why, you know, the to-do list or, you know, the income producing activity tracker or whatever it is, or maybe your post-it notes. However, you decide to make a plan. You have to be very clear and very concise about your plan. And you also have to give yourself a time limit.
Kristen Boss (13:37):
And when you will have that plan done by, because if it’s just whenever your brain feels no urgency, or if it’s not driven to be efficient around the work, it’s just going to kind of go and just do its thing. So you have to have a plan and then you have to decide your results before you start. So you have to ask yourself, what will I produce in this time? And I just talked about that a few seconds ago about like, okay, I’m going to produce, you know, 20 new conversations, a new post, a new reel and five follow-up conversations. You have to actually decide ahead of time. What will I produce? So at the end of that time, you know that you were productive. This is so important
Kristen Boss (14:23):
Because I think a lot of you wake up each day and you think, I don’t know what to do. I can’t tell you how often people choose to default to the thought, I don’t know what I’m doing, but the thing is you do know what you’re doing. The only reason why you say, I don’t know is because you are trying to conserve the brain energy or the work it takes to figure out what you need to do. Figuring out what to do takes, takes energy for your brain. It takes work and your brain
Kristen Boss (14:56):
Doesn’t want to work. Remember, your brain is always about trying to figure out how to conserve as much energy in a day as possible. So if a can cut a corner, it’s going to cut a corner. So if you say an, I don’t know is cutting that corner. So your brain doesn’t have to work to figure it out. Then your brains will be like, yeah, yeah, that’s right. We don’t know. Let’s just stay confused. And I want you to notice that when you stay confused, what happens?
Kristen Boss (15:20):
You waste time. You lose so much time because you don’t know what to do because you’ve decided I don’t know what to do. And now you might be listening to this and be like, but Kristen, I really don’t know what to do,but that’s only because you have trained yourself to believe that thought you haven’t even challenged it. You haven’t sat there and been like, wait a minute. What if I do know what to do?
Kristen Boss (15:46):
Because you do, you literally know that this business is about connecting meaningfully with people, meeting people, talking about what you do, solving problems, serving people and making an ask. Like, yeah, it really is that simple, but you have a brain that’s like, there’s no way that’s that, that, that it could be that simple. There’s no way we could do this. It has to be more complicated. And then I see people actually going and making it more complicated for themselves because it’s not allowed to be easy. It’s not allowed to be simple. So just notice that when you, as soon as you choose the thought, I don’t know what to do. You’re you lose so much time. You lose time sitting in confusion, sitting in indecision, and then starting to indulge in a lot of mind, drama and start thinking, maybe, maybe I’m not cut out for this. Maybe I shouldn’t do this. You know, maybe I should go and listen to a podcast and said in that wasn’t even on your list. And by the way, listening to a podcast should not be on your income producing activity. I, this, this episode should be either, you know, it’s a separate activity. It is your personal development time. That is not the same as your business building time. I would love for this to be a part of your business building activity, but it’s
Kristen Boss (17:00):
Not this. Isn’t what actually makes you money. It’s certainly sharpens your brain and it helps you show up to your work activity better. But this is not your work activity. Let’s just be really clear on that. So when you choose, like, I don’t know what I’m doing or I’m stuck, or I’m confused. What happens is you start spinning out with that thought, and then you start going into research mode or you buffer, or you avoid the tasks, you know, you’re supposed to do. And by buffering, that could be, I’m going to go work on this other project. I’m going to go play around in my Canva with some branding colors. This feels, this feels productive. Oh, maybe I need to like rewrite my, I help statement again, like, just notice how that is actually buffering from the work. You know, you need to do it’s, you’re putting it off, you’re avoiding it.
Kristen Boss (17:56):
And then you’re only feeling more anxiety because you’re losing time. And now the thought really does feel true that I have so much to do. And I don’t have enough time, but it’s only because you are losing so much time because you don’t know how to manage your, your mind around an activity. That’s uncomfortable. Like, just because the business is simple, doesn’t mean it’s easy and fun all the time. Sometimes it’s really challenging and you have to learn to train and condition and discipline your mind to still show up and do the work. Even when you don’t feel like it, which is why we resist planning.
Kristen Boss (18:35):
You can have a plan. You can, you know, the night before your meal, like, okay, I’m gonna accomplish this, this, this, and this. And this is my exact plan. And how many times have you noticed the next day? You start to do your plan and none of it gets done or didn’t go to plan at all
Kristen Boss (18:50):
This isn’t because time happened to you. It’s not because, oh, my the day totally got away from me. I don’t know what happened. Now. I do understand that sometimes there are emergencies and circumstances beyond your control. You know, kid getting sick. I get that. I’m just talking about your average. I’m going to sit down to do activity a, B, and C. And then when you actually sit down to do it, all of a sudden, you find yourself very distracted. You’re looking at your phone, you’re thinking of your meal plan, your maybe compiling a new playlist on Spotify. You’re doing anything, but actually getting the work done that is avoiding and procrastinating and losing time. This is how we lose so much time.
Kristen Boss (19:35):
And anytime we are buffering or avoiding it’s because we are avoiding a feeling, an emotion that we don’t want to feel. It’s not about work. We don’t want to do. It’s about how the work makes us feel. And we don’t want to feel those feelings. So we go and distract ourselves with something else. So we don’t have to feel that. So let me give you an example of this. I had someone in the academy who noticed that every time she sat down to write copy, or, you know, a caption that she would not do it, she would find other things to do. She’d go and fold laundry, prep, dinner, do the dishes, you know, she’d find anything else to do. And the copy wouldn’t get written.
Kristen Boss (20:23):
And I asked her how copywriting made her feel. And she’s like, well, I feel a lot of pressure because I feel like it has to yield an instant result. Like I have to, you know, attract a new person from this post. So when she’s going to do the dishes or do something else, the emotion she is trying to avoid is the feeling of pressure of that post. Having to create something like your brain. Doesn’t like feeling pressure. So it’s always going to look for an exit. It’s almost going to be like, I don’t like this feeling. How can we exit away from this feeling? Oh, well, some simple, let’s just not do the activity that has us feeling this way. This is why unmanaged time is a sign of an unmanaged mind. So when you find yourself buffering and avoiding, you have to ask yourself what feeling, what emotions am I not wanting to experience
Kristen Boss (21:38):
With that activity right now? And sometimes it’s, it could be. And this is where I, I see perfectionism. Pop-Up that’s another time waster is because a lot of times I heard the sane and it’s so powerful that perfectionism is for the fearful. If I do this perfectly, then I will save myself from rejection and judgment and fear of failure. Like if I do it good enough, I won’t have to experience negative feelings and I won’t have to risk, rejection and judgment. So I’m just going to make it perfect. Notice how that’s a fear mechanism. It’s not a, you know, I want to feel good. It’s like, no, I I’m just going to keep working on this so that I don’t have to be afraid of what people will think of me. And so perfectionism sucks up so much time.
Kristen Boss (22:34):
So if someone’s avoiding a task, it could be that they just don’t want to experience the feeling that they experienced when they’re caught in that perfectionism trap of like, oh no, I just know that that one post is going to take me an hour. Listen, a post does not take an hour. The only reason why a post is taking you an hour is because your brain is out of control. It literally is saying all kinds of mean things to you. Like this post has to produce something this time, you better not get it wrong. You have to do it right. You better make sure the lighting is right. You better make sure you’re using the exact right verbiage. And people really understand you. And we create so much pressure around that one post, which is why the post takes an hour, which is why I’m a firm believer and setting a timer for your content. Because however long you allow yourself to sit and indulge in all of your thoughts, your brain’s just going to stay there and be like, yeah, let’s just stay in this worst case scenario with this post. That’s fun. A post could take you 20 minutes. If you truly learn to manage your mind, maybe that’s blowing your mind, right? Like what, listen, let me give you some encouragement. If you follow me on Instagram, you will see that probably 80% of the time. I have crazy typos, crazy typos. Now, am I eventually going to hire somebody to, you know, edit my work for me? Yeah.
Kristen Boss (24:07):
But I’m okay with that typos getting out in the world. I actually think it’s a fantastic thing because I like exemplifying to my students work that gets done. I am a firm believer that B minus work can be so impactful in the world. And I really believe you can build a million dollar business with B minus work. Isn’t that crazy? But that feels so hard for somebody like if you were an a plus student all through school and you made that mean something about you when people were like, oh, you’re so you’re such a bright student. You’re such a good student. You’re an, a plus student we’ve created so much. I think sociological or society kind of value on that, that when we go off into the adult world, we take this belief with us, that everything we have to do in the world has to be a plus work in order for us to be worthy and loved because that’s how we were worthy and loved as children. Just notice that a lot of times stories we bring into our business is stories from our childhood.
Kristen Boss (25:19):
Almost always, you guys have heard me talk about this, how, you know, my propensity or my history of overworking was from a childhood story I had about work and worth, right? So you cannot bring this a plus mentality to your business because it will cripple you at every turn and you will lose so much precious time done is better than perfect. Get your work out into the world. No, one’s grading you. No one is grading you. So again, aim for imperfect, but done work. Don’t, you know, you don’t want to do C or D D. You definitely want to aim for B minus. If you do better than
Kristen Boss (26:10):
That good job, but respect your time. Tell yourself how long you’re going to take doing that activity. Don’t ask yourself, like, I don’t know how long that’s going to take you D you decide ahead of time, how long it’s going to take. Isn’t that interesting when someone says, how long does it take to, you know, I just started writing a book. I started writing my book and it’ll, it’ll be out next spring. And, you know, the question is, how long does it take to write a chapter? And for some people it could be, it could be weeks could be, or could be days, or just decide to sit down and say, you know what? I’m gonna spend two hours. I’m gonna get chapter one, done things, take as long as we decide for them to take.
Kristen Boss (26:58):
But oftentimes we have stories about how long we think something will take. And then we create a lot of drama around that because of it. Then we end up procrastinating and it taking much, longer and longer. So this is why I want you to really notice your thoughts about the activity you’re sitting down to do.
Kristen Boss (27:25):
And I also want to invite you to have a lot of compassion with yourself when it comes to time management, because it is a practice and a skill set that you will continually work on. It will get better with time, but here’s the thing. You still have a brain that’s designed to resist planning. It’s designed to do that. So I don’t know. I want you to be discouraged if a year from now, you’re still working on your time. It just means you’re human. You know, it’s so interesting. I think we experience time. It’s very relevant. Cause I want you to think back we can experience time differently. You know, like I just remember when my kids were babies, I remember someone said, you know, the days are long and the years are short. And that was the true, the truest thing I had ever heard.
Kristen Boss (28:21):
Like the days the minutes felt so long. And I remember when I was, you know, feeding my babies when I was nursing them. I remember the time window in between each feeding. It like flew by. I’m like, wait, what, how has it already been two and a half hours? How has that happened? I was just experiencing time so quickly. But then there are some things we do in life or some things that we experienced that time feels like it passes by. It takes a long time for it to pass. So time is how you choose to experience it. Sometimes it’s going to fly, but if you have really crappy thoughts about a situation or a circumstance, it’s going to feel like, oh, this is taking forever. Right?
Kristen Boss (29:10):
I think it’s so interesting with, you know, with this idea of, you know, I just don’t have time if that’s, if that’s you, if you have this thought of like, you know, I’d be so much further along in my business if I had more time and I want to actually tell you how untrue that thought is because you’re, you can be given more time and you will have a brain that will find ways to buffer, distract, avoid, and procrastinate, and have a lot of drama around that time. I can’t tell you how many times people quit their nine to fives. I’m going to have so much more time so that I can, you know, in my downtime, then I can work on building my business. But here’s the thing. They find that they are just as busy as when they were at their nine to five.
Kristen Boss (29:55):
I think a really great example is, do you, do you remember if you, if you have kids you’ll know what I’m mean about this, but I just remember before I had kids, I I’m surprised no one’s slapped me. I just remember thinking, gosh, I’m just so busy. I’m so busy. And I know there were a couple moms in my life that were like, oh, you think you’re busy now? And I remember feeling really annoyed. Oh, bless them. But it’s so interesting now being with kids like my husband and I often say like, man, we had so much time before kids, but we didn’t understand it because we were experiencing time differently.
Kristen Boss (30:37):
No, it’s just, it’s almost identical with money before kids were like, yeah, we, we had so much money, but we didn’t know because we weren’t responsible with it. So we don’t know how to, we didn’t know how to use it properly. So we always felt broke. Same with time. When we worked before kids, like we, weren’t using our time to the best of our ability. We weren’t in control of our time. We kind of just flew by the seat of our pants. And because of that, we didn’t make the most use of our time. And we always felt broke on time. And then, you know, once we had kids, we’re like, oh, we were being forced to use our time differently. And I really believe time is just like money. You have to tell it where to go. You have to be in charge of it. Otherwise it gets lost and you don’t know how you spent it. You’re like, how did that happen? Oh, wait, I blinked? And it’s two o’clock last. I looked, it was 10. And I haven’t gotten anything done
Kristen Boss (31:33):
Managing your time is, is not, is more than just, you know, managing your mind and your internal chatter that you have around the activity. You’re going to sit down to do time. Management is also about honoring your word to yourself. I’ve been doing this personal challenge of walking every day, outside for 30 minutes a day for 30 days, no matter what. And let me just tell you, I have ran in
Kristen Boss (32:05):
Thunderstorms, snow, sun rain, 78 degree weather, 32 degree weather. It’s that’s spring in Colorado for you. And I made that promise to myself, like no matter what the weather is out there, I will find a 30 minute video window
Kristen Boss (32:23):
To walk because my word is that important to me. And I really believe how we do one thing in life is how we do everything. And so if you are writing down to do lists and you aren’t getting that done and you, you know, honoring the plan, you set out when it comes to what you want to accomplish in that day, it means that you don’t truly keep promises to yourself or honor your word to yourself.
Kristen Boss (32:55):
And I want to ask you where else that might be showing up in your life, because it’s never isolated to one area.Where else are you saying things saying, you’re going to do things, but not following through with them. This is why your planner and your to-do list might not be working because your brain looks at that and knows you’re lying to yourself.
Kristen Boss (33:21):
Maybe you know that you look at the plan and you’re like, huh. And maybe that’s why you also spin out and freak out. Maybe, maybe you’ve stopped planning. And you’ve just started telling yourself the story of like, oh no, I’m spontaneous. I love the freedom. I just want to do whatever I want. And just let it come to me. Let me ask you something for my friends out there who really believe the spontaneity is, is what freedom is. I want to ask you, are you creating exactly what you want in your life? Do you have the results, the exact results you want in your life?
Kristen Boss (34:07):
If you are, great! Spontaneity is working for you, but I’ve never met somebody who spontaneously because spontaneous is, it’s a very passive posture. It’s like, whatever happens to me, I just go with the flow. It’s not being intentional and purposeful. And let me just tell you people who create extraordinary lives, do it on purpose and with intention,
Kristen Boss (34:33):
Not on a whim. And when they feel like it spontaneity to me, it means you are always at the mercy of your motivation and your internal feelings. If it feels good, if it doesn’t feel good and you will not build a legacy business, if you’re waiting to just whatever it feels good when it feels fun, when it feels great, I don’t know. Am I in the mood? I don’t know. I’ll just do it when I feel like it. If you do it, when you feel like it, you’re just going to stay broken. You’re not going to like that. Take it from me. So you can say, and here’s, here’s what I truly believe. I truly believe when you plan your life, you can actually create room for spontaneity. I call it like planned spontaneity and, and, you know, what’s really interesting is this idea of time management and learning to be really efficient with our time and really managing our mind around that
Kristen Boss (35:29):
Is I think, I think a lot of people assume I work insane hours a week, like 70, 80 hours a week. They know I’ve got, you know, a podcast, a book, the assets, my, my member portal, my mastermind, my social selling and academy being present on social media. Like it would be very easy if you are somebody who does not manage your time. Well, to look at my business and think she must work all the time. And I don’t because I’m very disciplined with how I spend my time when I am working my business
Kristen Boss (36:05):
And I have made it non-negotiable to work outside of my designated business hours. Sometimes we’re not productive because we’re like, oh, I’ll just handle that later tonight when the kids are in bed. But here’s, what’s interesting when I made that a hard and fast rule for myself of not doing work after seven o’clock at night, suddenly it became a lot more productive during the day because I knew I couldn’t push it off until the evening. And that was also a lot more productive. And I got a lot more done because it was during daylight. It was my, my energy was much higher, but it was so interesting how once I made a hard and fast rule about when I would work and when I would not work, I became a lot more productive during my work time. So when I sit down to work, I sit down to do the work.
Kristen Boss (36:57):
I schedule everything I want to produce. And I ask myself at the end of this hour, at the end of these two hours, what do I want to accomplish and have done? You know, right now it’s like record scripted podcast, record a podcast. And right now I also have, you know, outline day two for, you know, the three-day experience. Right. I’m also recording this ahead of the event. So if you’re like, whoa, she’s like preparing on the fly no way. So I just want you to know, notice the stories you tell yourself about time itself. And I think sometimes we can have, you know, just like with money, we can have scarcity with our time. Like I don’t have enough time. So we become so fearful of wasting time that we end up wasting time, because we don’t know where to put our time because we’re so afraid of wasting it.
Kristen Boss (37:53):
I haven’t seen that so many times where people who are like, no, I just don’t have a lot of time. I’m terrified. I’m going to waste my time. And from that place of I’m so terrified, I’m going to waste my time. They end up sitting in a lot of indecision and confusion because they don’t know where to put their time because they’re so afraid of putting it in the wrong place because they’re afraid of wasting their time. Guess what happens. They waste time while they’re trying to figure out where to what to do with their time. Can you see that? Can you see how that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy? So notice your thoughts and your feelings in regards to time. Do you believe it’s happening to you or do you believe that you are in charge of
Kristen Boss (38:32):
It? Notice the, your, the stories you tell yourself about the activity you’re sitting down to do, are you telling yourself it’s going to be painful and hard and horrible? Well then of course you don’t want to sit down to write it because your brand’s like, oh no, we don’t want painful and horrible. Let’s go do something else instead. And also just notice if you were honoring your word to yourself, notice how I’m like not giving you a, Hey, spend 30 minutes doing this 20 minutes doing this. This is not about time. Like I said, time management is not about a to-do list or, you know, time-blocking or a certain planner. It truly is about managing the chatter between your ears and honoring your word to yourself. All right. I hope that was helpful friends. We’re going to have more episodes on time, because I also want to talk about procrastination and you know, and again, I think there’s more to talk about when it comes to buffering, because we don’t just do
Kristen Boss (39:46):
That with our time. We do that in relationships. We do that in our business. We do it with food. We do it with conversations, just anytime where we go and do something else we buffer it’s because we don’t want to feel. But what if you gave yourself permission to feel yucky, to feel uncomfortable and do it anyways? You know, Nike has just do it. I want to just tell you, you feel like garbage, do it anyways, and you will notice you will become so much more productive with your time because remember busy does not equal productive. And if you want to have a fantastic paycheck and build a meaningful legacy, then you have to learn to be productive. See you next week.